12 PRACTICAL TIPS

1-BELIEVE IN YOUR POTENTIAL
If you don’t believe in yourself, others won’t. And it is given by a simple fact: if you believe you can, you will act accordingly, you will get results and others will perceive it. When you encounter something so normal in life as an obstacle, if you think you can overcome it, you will act and you may fail at the first attempt. But if you think, «Okay, I failed, but I’m learning to get over it,» you’ll probably get through it. If, on the other hand, you think «this is too much for me», you automatically stop trying

In this aspect it is always important that you are aware of your thoughts.

I refer to that inner voice that tells you «you can», «you can’t», «you are the greatest», «you are the worst»… And most people are not aware of it, because you have to make an effort to observe it, question it and finally not accept it. This is called self-efficacy and can be defined as follows: the judgments of each individual about his or her abilities, on the basis of which he or she will organize and execute actions to achieve the desired results.

As Henry Ford said: Whether you think you can, or whether you think you can’t, you are right.

2 – WORRY ABOUT WHAT YOU THINK OF YOURSELF, NOT ABOUT WHAT OTHERS THINK
Sometimes we worry too much about «what they will think», although they may not even think about us or care what we do.

However, have you ever wondered why you don’t consider as often what you think of yourself? Well, your level of well-being and achievement in life will depend on this question.

If you don’t appreciate yourself, you will sabotage yourself. You may get something you want, but if you feel you don’t deserve it, you won’t enjoy it and you’ll probably even spoil it.

On the other hand, you will be looking for the approval of others, one of the great areas of conflict and worse for happiness.

3- FACE THE PAST
What you are, how you feel and what you do now depends on your current beliefs, not on the past.

It is true that if you have had to go through circumstances in which you have been made to feel bad, not valued, insulted or mistreated, you are more likely to not value yourself and therefore have lower self-esteem.

But it is not immutable, it is not a wall that is built and can not be torn down.

Value yourself!

4- ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE NOT YOUR OWN MISTAKES
Your past mistakes do not define you, what defines you is what you think and do now.

If you’ve made any mistakes, they’ve already happened, and they’re for learning. What’s more, you’ll get better from it. Think that if you hadn’t made it, you probably wouldn’t have had the opportunity to improve. Think about how good you are doing and what you are accomplishing.

5- YOU HAVE NOTHING TO PROVE
Why do you have to prove something to someone to get them to value you? That would make your happiness and self-esteem dependent on other people.

So be happy and feel good without having anything to prove to anyone. Set goals and try to achieve them, but let your happiness be controlled by you, not by others.

6- THE PAST AND MISTAKES ARE VALUABLE
From now on, you can start thinking about your past (even if it was negative) as valuable to you and others. Because it has allowed you to learn, be stronger and improve as a person. When you accept this, your weaknesses become strengths and allow you to grow.

7-MAKE A POSITIVE DIFFERENCE
If you really value yourself and have positive expectations of yourself, you will automatically make a positive difference, you will be contributing well to the world.

If, for example, you think you are supportive, you will help people.

If you think you are an entrepreneur and have initiative, you will start projects.

If you think you are friendly, you will be kind to others.

8- BE SURROUNDED BY POSITIVE PEOPLE WHO VALUE YOU
Why hang out with people who don’t value you when you can hang out with those who do?

Why are you with negative people with people who won’t make you grow up?

Attitudes to life are contagious. Even though your happiness depends on yourself, «a good tree has a good shade.

«If I have seen further, it is because I have climbed on the shoulders of giants»-Isaac Newton.

9-VALUE YOUR TIME AND BODY
Start taking care of yourself mentally and physically, both are important.

Our thoughts are important, but taking care of your diet and exercise will also help you have a positive self-esteem.

On the other hand, eliminate from your habits everything that is not contributing to your growth and happiness. TV programs? Negative friendships?

10- MEDITATE AND PRACTICE MINDFULNESS
Both will allow you to be more aware of your thoughts.

With about 10-15 minutes a day, you’re going to see great advances.

11- DARE TO DO NEW THINGS
All of the above will allow you to expand your interests and do new things in life.

Go to new places, meet interesting people, do new things.

12-ADOPT THE KAIZEN
Kaizen is the Japanese philosophy of constant improvement.

If you adopt this philosophy, your growth will be constant and will always go upwards.

So what are you waiting for to be happy?